Stud and I will never, ever, learn.
In our prior town, the occasional times we saw two particular ex-members of the family, they would be vivacious, friendly, (OVERLY so) and always ended up requesting a "loan".
We would smile and wave good-bye as they disappeared along with our money: never to be seen again - until next time.
When we realized we were never going to learn, we decided to remove ourselves from the temptation to be suckers. 832 miles, to be exact.
So when a neighbor's 43 year old daughter started visiting us and offering her friendship, we thought she was so sweet.
Yes. We knew she had been a heavy drug user, but that was in the past.
Yes. We thought it odd that she needed to borrow $20 on a SUNDAY for a credit check.
Yes. We thought it odd that she needed to borrow another $20 on the same day.
Yes. She had hit us up for money before, but her dad was always quick to repay us since she lives
She had lots of reasons for her emergency need. We listened to them all and, as we've always done, we shook our heads: commiserated with her, and handed over the $40.
We knew her dad would repay us.
The following day, her phone call broke our hearts. She had told dad she had borrowed money from us and he had gotten angry. There was NO WAY we were going to mention it to dad. She said we'd have to wait til he cooled down. Gee. We made HER dad mad at US?
Like I said, we're easy marks.
Today, Stud went to the neighbor's and said we were disappointed to be placed in the embarrassing position of asking for our money back.
He was surprised. *GASP*
It was the first he'd heard of it, BUT, he was proud to declare that she was doing "a lot better now with counseling."
Four days in counseling and she has improved. It's a miracle.
And a little reminder of how easily we can still be manipulated and scammed.
I now know four things:
When someone is lying, instead of giving you a specific reason they need money - they give you an entire book of reasons, including maps, charts, and diagrams.
Children (and grown adults) don't have to "learn their lesson" or take responsibility for their actions, as long as their parents make excuses for their actions.
The main thing her dad was surprised over was NOT the fact she LIED, but the fact she was delinquent in paying us back.
And we can't point the finger at others and call them stupid.