Thursday, November 22, 2012

I dunno, but it just seems rude

For those of you who haven't been with me for the twelve years I've blogged, most of you don't remember my FRIDAYS READERS COMMENTS.

I would take the best of my comments and answer them on Fridays, with links back to the readers.

Then I started offering gifts to the comment that gave me the biggest laugh and allowed me to give my best answers to.

I noticed that a lot of bloggers answered their comments AT THE TIME, and I wondered why, since no one returns to the 'scene of the crime' once they've had their say.

Some people get perturbed by having to follow a thread.....I didn't even know what a 'threaded comment' was, but I discovered I was enjoying the bloggers who answered the people who took the time to leave a comment.

Then, it started to seem rude NOT to answer comments.  Then I noticed I enjoyed returning to those blogs to read the answers to the comments!

Ah yes, little grasshopper.  How our attitudes change over time.

Thank you to all the bloggers who answer your comments.  It's a great way to acknowledge and show appreciation that your  readers took the time to say something, and it gives a feeling of interaction that helps bond us together.


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  1. I've wondered if I should do the same. I do read every comment but only reply if I feel like I have something to add to it. On rare occasion (or if I want to be more private) I'll email the commenter. Maybe I should change my habits.

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    1. I think a comment is wonderful, but when the blogger says something regarding my comment, it's the next best thing to exchanging conversation.

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  2. I agree. Sometimes I don't go back to 'the scene' right away but when I am reading that blog again, a day or so later on a new post, I'll remember that I commented & scroll down to my comment. It's nice to know my comment was acknowledged.

    Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

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    1. I've read complaints regarding threaded comments, but I LOVE to scroll down to my frog and hear more of what the blogger has to say to me.

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  3. For me, the comment/reply thing has always been the best part of blogging. It is how I grew incredibly attached to people who I have never met face to face. I wonder why it isn't done by everyone, to be honest.

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    1. You're coming on to me. I can tell. You're incredibly attached to me aren't you? *wink* It was all part of my plot.

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  4. If I wanted to bond with ya I'd get you drunk first. I get mad at myself for not commenting on my comments from others...but I wonder if they ever come back to see if I do. Oh well! I'll do what I can do and that's all I can do. Uh...what a glass of whine?

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    1. I do -- come back to see if you've answered my comment. Occasionally you do.

      Love,
      Janie

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    2. Coffey, Janie always horns in on our private conversations, have you noticed? Maybe I shouldn't reply to her, since she's connected to YOUR comment and didn't leave a stand alone one of her own......

      (she'll have a shot of whiskey)

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    3. It's not private if you do it online.

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    4. It's private if you do it online, while under a sheet. Coffeypot told me so.

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  5. What a funny medium, this blogging.
    Two weeks ago we drove 20 hours round-trip to help spread the ashes of a guy I never met...
    A guy I knew only via looking at a computer screen and sharing thoughts. In an odd way, I loved the man and felt a kinship.
    Our world has been expanded. I'm share values with some of my blogging friends more closely than I do with my physical neighbors.
    Where do we go from here? Who knows. But it's exciting, isn't it?

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    1. I'm even aware of your blogger friend who passed away. Now where else can there be such an exchange of information between "strangers"?

      I think it's fantastic. I met my first blogger over 12 years ago, and I've lost more than I can count through the years.

      BUT, we were there for each other when the timing was right. Things move on, but I like the ones I've got RIGHT NOW.

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  6. I like replying to comments through my Gmail so my blog isn't so scroll heavy. If I think a reply pertains to many questions I'll post it on the site. Here's wishing you a joyous and peaceful Thanksgiving.

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    1. SCROLL HEAVY? Man. I wish I had that many readers! But I LOVE the close little community I've got at this point in time.

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    2. I want everything in one place. Scrolling is not that hard. Opening email is hard. Then, I have to wonder what on earth the email is about, who wrote me, what did I say to elicit this response, what was the gist of the post....so, back to the blog post for me.

      I need more comments! I want to feel warm and fuzzy.

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    3. There, there. It will be alright. No email from me regarding comments. Here's a shot of Triple Sec and Tequila. You'll be warm and fuzzy in a minute.

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  7. Hi Lotta Joy - Twelve years of missed blogs for me. But you know if it wasn't for Kymber, I still wouldn't even know what a blog was. Now that she has introduced me to the modern era, I am finding that reading certain blogs like yours which is so informative, humorous, and entertaining, is just an all round nice way of meeting those special people in life that we otherwise wouldn't.

    I agree that when one leaves a comment, you also look forward to the response. In fact, your responses are just as entertaining and humorous as your posts. You aren't predictable at all and that makes you interesting and intriguing - much like a good book or movie. I'm hooked and I thank you for writing.

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and Stud !

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    1. Just call me FIFTY SHADES OF "SILVER" and the movie will be out soon.

      Without Kymber, I wouldn't have met you, even though I know every curve of your arms and legs......wow.....that REALLY sounds like FIFTY SHADES OF SILVER doesn't it.

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    2. You see, that's what I mean. You're amazing - Fifty Shades of Silver ! Too funny - bahahahaha ! Me too actually if it weren't for the dye jobs.

      I seriously hope I can get to see those curvy arms and legs one day. Damn it, she's hanging on to it forever here.

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    3. I've mentioned your dilemma to Jambaloney, hoping for a little help. But he knows which side of the bread is buttered. I'd bet it's going to be a Christmas present. But just remember I drew it, not Kymber. So consider it MY Christmas present to you.

      (I hope she reads that)

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    4. If I was to receive it for Christmas, then I would sing so loud that you could hear me all the way to Florida. And I would get your address and thank you properly for this very special gift !

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    5. I haven't heard from Kymber in quite a while. I assume she's laying low in the newly dry basement with your portrait clutched in her hands.

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  8. When I think that you have been blogging for years and I have been missing your hysterical observations of life on Earth, I just want to slit my wrists ! But, of course, that would make a mess, particularly around the holidays and so I will have to just do something else to deal with my sorrow. (Perhaps I could get a miniature pony and tell my husband it's a THERAPY pony !)
    Seriously for just a moment, I try to answer the comments whenever I can. I sometimes even allow the spam through and then comment on that. Yup, that's pathetic. I NEED a therapy pony ! Love and best Thanksgiving wishes to you all.

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    1. My LIFE IS GOOD was nominated as one of the best humor blogs going (at the time) and actually won several honest to gawd awards. Not just the kind one bloggers gives to another.

      While Stud's ex-family members laughed at how depressed I got when THEY hacked into it and changed my passwords, I truly had to grieve over losing it and all my readers.

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    2. I am not the least bit surprised that you won blog awards. Heck, I would give you a Pulitzer ! (That's a small dog like a Pomeranian, isn't it?) I think I'll go and drink a pilate now.
      With confused affection,

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    3. That's as in Pileated Woodpecker, right?

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    1. ATTA GIRL!!! We ordered our precooked meal from Publix and had the mess cleaned up in record time. Now that's what I call a happy thanksgiving. No muss. No fuss. No relatives.

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    2. The Schwan's man delivered turkey and veggies for Elvis and me. It was good and it was healthy -- no rolls, no mashed potatoes, no pie. OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE? I need pie and I need it now!

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    3. And you were celebrating thanksgiving with no rolls, potatoes, or pie. What was the point?

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  10. Hey lotta joy,

    Although logistics dictate that some bloggers who like get zillions of comments, could not possibly reply to each person. Of course, I do my best to reply to each person who commented on my posting and in turn, try to comment on their posting.

    Although it can be quite time consuming, I think if one can, it adds the personal touch and the banter is always welcome. Positive interaction within this blogging community is one of the best aspects. Thank you and continued fulfilling writing, your way, Gary :)

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    1. If I ever get zillions, you can forget about the personal answers. So I think we can all rest easy that I will always say something back. After all, it seems rude not to.

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    2. That's what I've been saying for years. To not acknowledge seems rude. Then you have the self-obsessed bloggers who think they are better than the rest of us. Have a good weekend.

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  11. Lotta Joy,

    Happy Thanksgiving Day to You and Yours.
    Give the pup a scratch behind the ears for me.
    I read every comment on my blog and respond.
    I also read the blogs I follow and try to respond to those
    blogs when possible.

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    1. He's been in my lap all day so that I can dig my fingernails into his head. His Florida allergies are sadistic for him.

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  12. I have to respond by email, or my inbox gets completely out of hand.

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    1. No one likes me. MY inbox is never crowded.

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  13. I checked your blog yesterday morning, while waiting for things to cook. I wanted to add a comment on one of the older posts, but said to myself: " She'll post a Thanksgiving post and I don't want my comment to look like one of those dreams where you're in a department store in your underwear and can't figure out why, or what the dream is about."

    Then, the internet belched, I was busy with Thanksgiving festivities and drinking scotch. So, I didn't comment yesterday.

    Happy Thanksgiving. So, there you go. I didn't forget...or did I?

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    1. So....who are you and why are you here?

      I'm sorry you got lit up like a Christmas tree before you were able to leave a comment.

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  14. I am so with you on this Lotta Joy! I know it takes time and effort to respond to all those comments, but I DO go back and look for responses to what I say, and I appreciate them! Blogging, for me, is all about the interaction, the personal aspect, so I nearly always respond to comments on my blog, I want people to know that I appreaciate that they took the time to read what I said and to leave a comment. Some of the nicest folks in the world are my fellow bloggers, and that includes you! xoxo

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    1. I've always wondered if people read their comments. I know they DO, but not answering is like ... uh... ignoring people who are talking to you.

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  15. I responded on a blog I just found. About a week later I refound the blog and read a question that one of my followers asked me. THEN, she got snippy because I did not answer her question on someone else's blog. Consquently, she stopped following my blog. I know she felt like I would answer, but I cannot when I cannot find my way back. It was just bizarre.

    I get lost because I go from one blog to another and cannot find my way back to the blogs again. There is no way to leave breadcrumbs on the internet.

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    1. You're just responsible for what is said on YOUR blog. Expecting an answer from you, on another person's blog, is kinda rude to that particular blogger.

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