Saturday, November 17, 2012

GOOD GRIEF. MY PAST JUST WHOPPED ME UPSIDE THE HEAD.

SEE?

Look what I found!!

Lawdy, those were the days.   I just noticed Stud's blond mustache.  It took me ten years to convince him to shave it off.

My blond hair is now mostly silver.
I was firm and muscled then.  Now I'm feeble and wobbly.
Hey, it's MY blog.  Gimme a moment to whine.

After he retired, he returned to the houses to see the men who were on his battalion, but he was suddenly the 'old man out'.

During our working years, other retirees would walk into the firehouse and they were treated with respect.  They were also kind of pitiful.  Returning to their glory days for a moment and wishing for what was and never will be again.

I understood then, that once yer out, yer out.  The respect of brotherhood extends to the retirees, but the true BOND of brotherhood is for those in action.

The men of his battalion still call occasionally.  
They also ask to speak to me and, since I was kind of the fire department mascot of sarcasm, there's a lot of smart-assed banter between me and whoever I'm talking to.

Such is life.  It sux.


27 comments:

  1. Loved the photo... what a couple of cute kids!:-)The old saying "you can't go home again", is sadly true, and it holds true for places of employment too. The new folks may respect you, and those who remember may admire you, but you are still yesterday's news. Everynow and then I get a fun note from former coworkers though, remembering fondly some of the hell I used to raise when the situation called for it! :-) I bet the guys you worked with thought you were a total hoot, 'cuz you are! :-)

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    1. Those 'kids' were in their mid fifties. I am shocked when I see these photos and remember how ugly and grotesque I thought I was.

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    2. Viet Nam Vet helicopter pilot here...
      One of our last reunions, the ARMY brought out all the helicopters in the inventory, with crews, for us to inspect. Today's crews know we blazed a trail for them to follow. They also know they'd have trouble doing the job we did with the equipment we had, and that we folks that have trouble programming a digital clock would find it difficult to operate these new machines. Mutual respect, but...
      There is a division between us the size of the Grand Canyon.

      God Bless 'em. God protect 'em for the next four years.

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  2. Great photo of you two. I don't think you've changed much, still look hot.

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    1. Well, Stud has lost 40 pounds AND his mustache. But when you get to be our age, 'just a few years' pass and so many changes occur to us.

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  3. What a wonderful photo of domestic bliss. Actually, you two don't look much different with the exception of the missing "moustache" my spell check insists on spelling it that way. Mustache! take that, spell check!

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend. I'm outta' here....

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    1. I think that photo is about 8 years old, so we haven't aged all THAT much, but when you stop being physically active, those muscles take a nose-dive.

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  4. Nice picture of you two, I was looking back through our pictures yesterday and actually found one of Cindy and I before my beard turned gray Ha Ha.

    It's good that the men still call in on Stud once in a while, it does suck when they treat you like you no longer belong.

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    1. It sucks even worse when you DON'T belong. We were surprised when we went home and didn't even know half the new KIDS on the department. KIDS, I tell ya!

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  5. I agree; you both still look great. I would never have known that photo is as old as it is. Could have been snapped yesterday.

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    1. Thank you Stephen. It was just a shock to realize how vital we were one minute, then obsolete the next.

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  6. "The respect of brotherhood extends to the retirees, but the true BOND of brotherhood is for those in action" - very true observation.

    Nice photo. You both look hot, in a good way, not in an out-of-control-fire kinda way.

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    1. Hmmm. I kinda like the out-of-control kinda way, but not the fiery part. lol

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  7. I've decided the reason my memory fails me on the past, is because those trips down memory lane require the dreaded trip back to the reality of the here and now.

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    1. Oh hell. That photo HURT more than it brought back happy memories.

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  8. I'm with everybody else here - it's a really awesome picture and I think you haven't changed as much as you are thinking you have. Ugly and grotesque you thought ... are you kidding me - how many times do I need to tell you that you are beautiful !?!?



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    1. I've lived my life thinking I'm the elephant man. When I look back, I want to hit myself in the mouth for being such an idiot with no sense of self-worth. what a waste.

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  9. I think you both look great....still !
    There are simply jobs in the world that are not designed to be held in the long term. In my thirties I ran a critical care unit in the evenings which was a hybrid cardiac unit and post cardiac surgery unit. I did a good job and I loved my job. I think back now and I could never do that particular job now. It wasn't the physicality, but there was the stress of being in charge and of treating people based on standing orders and then trying to find their physicians in the evenings in a world where physicians, many times, affiliate with multiple hospitals. The nurse in charge had to be very clear on interpreting EKGs and on the correct course of treatment based on the standing orders. Where people are concerned, life is not always clear. Being in charge of all the other professionals on that unit in the evenings was no cake walk either, particularly as they folded during stress sometimes. Today, I know too much to be willing to subject myself to that level of stress, and exposure to human loss and human suffering is difficult, despite how well I was once paid. Everyone is someone's husband, child, wife, or Mom or Dad. I didn't get too soft to do that job. I got too wise. You didn't age past your jobs, you became wise beyond it.

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    1. The true problem was when Stud left, a few other of the older guys left too. Who was now in charge? Younger men without the work ethic of our older generation, less experience, and a lack of old fashioned pride.

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  10. And there's the adorable couple!!!



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    1. Ah yes. Stud and I provided gossip for years, being the OLD couple actually DATING.

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  11. I rarely go back to my old work place. If I do it is because I am with Judy (who still works there). If I run into anyone I know I always tell them that the company is a great company to be away from. No reminiscing here. My last year there was the worse of my life. I LOVE being away from those people and company philosophy.

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    1. Oh, we HATED the chief like you wouldn't believe. Everyone did. He especially liked to use verbal threats against me, since he knew I wouldn't go after him legally due to the fact that Stud had to work for him too.

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  12. I'm with everyone else, it's a beautiful picture of a lovely couple. And yes, you both still look great!

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    1. Thank you. It was mostly a culture shock when I found that old photo.

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  13. I've been awfully sick--and still am--so haven't been visiting blogs lately, but I've thought about you, and now I'm caught up. I was afraid there might be some more bad news about Stud's health.

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  14. lotta..

    i don't see much difference between then and now..

    like, at all..

    nostalgia is a bitch, keep it off your property, you should have enough ammo by now ;-)

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